I have been trying towrite this for a while,
but the morphine
and lack of juicy cheeseburgers
(what has it beennow,
five weeks without realfood?)
have drained myenergy
and interfered withwhatever
prose prowessremains.
一段时间以来，我一直想写这篇文章，
但吗啡加上美味的奶酪汉堡的缺失
（现在已经五周没吃真正的食物了吧？）
导致我精疲力尽，并且影响了我仅存的文字能力。
Additionally, theintermittent micronaps
that keep whisking meaway
midsentence areclearly
not propelling my workforward
as quickly as I wouldlike.
But they are, admittedly,a bit of trippy fun.
另外，间歇性的打盹常常让我在语句写到一半时停下来，
它们显然没有像我希望的那样迅速地推进我的工作，
不过倒也的确算是一种迷迷糊糊的小快乐。
Still, I have to stickwith it,
because I’mfacing a deadline,
in this case, a pressingone.
I need to say this (andsay it right)
while I have yourattention, and a pulse.
但我必须坚持
因为我面临一个最后期限
而且这一次的最后期限颇为紧张
我必须趁自己还 有你们的关注并且有脉搏时
把这些话说出来（还要准确地说出来）
I have been married
to the most extraordinaryman for 26 years.
I was planning on atleast another 26 together.
我和这个最特别的男人已经结婚 26 年了
我本来打算和他再一起生活至少 26 年
Want to hear a sickjoke?
A husband and wife
walk into the emergencyroom
in the late evening onSept. 5, 2015.
想听个倒胃口的笑话吗？
一对夫妇在2015 年 9 月 5 日的深夜走进急诊室。
A few hours and testslater,
the doctor clarifies thatthe unusual pain
the wife is feeling onher right side
isn’t theno-biggie appendicitis they suspected
but rather ovariancancer.
几个小时过去了
在进行了一些检查后
医生明确表示
妻子右半边身体感觉到的剧痛
不是他们所以为的没什么大不了的阑尾炎
而是卵巢癌
No wonder the word
cancer and cancel look sosimilar.
难怪cancer（癌症）这个词和 cancel（取消）
看上去这么相像
This is when weentered
what I came to think ofas Plan “Be,”
existing only in thepresent.
As for the future,
allow me to introduceyou
to the gentleman of thisarticle,
Jason Brian Rosenthal.
这时，我们开始活在当下
我把它当作 Be计划（Plan Be）
至于未来，请允许我向你介绍本文的主人公
贾森•布莱恩•罗森塔尔（Jason Brian Rosenthal）
He is an easy man to fallin love with.
I did it in one day.
他是一个容易让人爱上的人
我就是在一天时间里爱上他的
Let me explain: My father’s bestfriend
since summer camp,
“Uncle” John, had known Jason and me
separately our wholelives,
but Jason and I had nevermet.
我解释一下吧：
我父亲从夏令营时代开始的挚友约翰叔叔
他是分别看着我和贾森长大的
但我和贾森从没见过面
I went to college outeast
and took my first job inCalifornia.
When I moved back home toChicago,
John — whothought Jason and I
were perfect for eachother
— set usup on a blind date.
我在东部上的大学
并在加州找到了自己的第一份工作
当我搬回芝加哥时
认为我和贾森是绝配的约翰给我们安排了一次相亲
It was 1989.
We were only 24.
I had precisely zeroexpectations
about this goinganywhere.
But when he knocked onthe door
of my little framehouse,
I thought, “Uh-oh,
there is something highlylikable
about this person.”
那是 1989 年
我们都只有 24岁
我本来对事情会怎么发展没抱任何期望
但当他敲响我的小木板房的门时
我想，“哇哦，这个人有一种非常讨人喜欢的感觉。”
By the end ofdinner,
I knew I wanted to marryhim.
Jason?
He knew a year later.
到晚餐结束时
我知道自己想嫁给他
贾森呢？他是一年后知道的
I have never beenon
Tinder, Bumble oreHarmony,
but I’m goingto create a general profile
for Jason righthere,
based on myexperience
of coexisting in the samehouse
with him for, like, 9,490days.
我从来没用过Tinder、Bumble 或 eHarmony
（均为社交交友平台）
但我要在这里根据
和他在同一屋檐下生活了大概 9490 天的经历
给贾森创建一份概括性的个人简介
First, the basics:
He is 5-foot-10,
160 pounds,
with salt-and-pepper hairand hazel eyes.
首先，基本信息如下：
身高 5 英尺 10 英寸（约合 178cm）
体重 160 磅（约合 73 公斤）
头发花白、眼睛淡褐色。
The following list ofattributes
is in no particularorder
because everything feelsimportant to me
in some way.
接下来要列出的特点没有特定的顺序
因为在某种程度上
每个特点对我来说都很重要
He is a sharpdresser.
Our young adult sons,Justin and Miles,
often borrow hisclothes.
他衣着入时
我们年轻但已成年的儿子
贾斯汀（Justin）和迈尔斯（Miles）
经常借他的衣服穿
Those who know him —
or just happen to glancedown at the gap
between his dress slacksand dress shoes —
know that he has a flairfor fabulous socks.
He is fit and enjoyskeeping in shape.
认识他的人
或仅仅是恰好向下瞥见了
他礼服裤子与鞋子之间的人
就会知道
他在袜子的搭配上天赋惊人
他身体健康，且喜欢保持体型
If our home could speak,
it would add that Jasonis uncannily handy.
On the subject of food —man,
can he cook.
如果我们的家会说话
它会补充一点
贾森非比寻常地心灵手巧
说到饮食这个话题 —
天哪，他太会做饭了
After a long day,
there is no sweeter joy
than seeing him walk inthe door,
plop a grocery bag downon the counter,
and woo me witholives
and some yummycheese
he has procured
before he gets to work onthe evening’s meal.
结束漫长的一天后
没有比看着他走进门
啪嗒一声把装着食品杂货的袋子放在柜子上
用买到的油橄榄或一些美味的奶酪讨好我
然后再开始准备晚饭更甜蜜的快乐
Jason loves listening tolive music;
it’s ourfavorite thing to do together.
I should also addthat
our 19-year-old daughter,Paris,
would rather go to aconcert with him
than anyone else.
贾森喜欢听现场音乐
这是我们最喜欢一起做的事
我还应该补充一点
我们 19 岁的女儿帕里斯（Paris）
宁愿和他而不是其他任何人去听音乐会
When I was working on myfirst memoir,
I kept circlingsections
my editor wanted me toexpand upon.
She would say,
“I’d like to see more of this character.”
写第一部回忆录时，
我总是用笔把编辑想让我扩充内容的章节圈出来。
她会说，“我想看到更多和这个角色有关的内容。”
Of course, I would agree —
he was indeed acaptivating character.
But it was funny
because she could havejust said:
“Jason.Let’s add more about Jason.”
当然， 我同意
他的确是一个吸引人的角色
但有意思的是，她本来可以直接说：
“贾森。咱们再补充一些和贾森有关的内容吧”
He is an absolutelywonderful father.
Ask anyone. See that guyon the corner?
Go ahead and askhim;
he’ll tellyou. Jason is compassionate
— and hecan flip a pancake.
他是一位非常优秀的父亲
你可以问任何人
看到拐角处的那个人了吗
去问他吧，他会告诉你的
贾森富有同情心
而且还会掂锅
让煎饼翻面
Jason paints.
I love his artwork.
I would call him anartist
except for the lawdegree
that keeps him at hisdowntown office
most days from 9 to 5.
Or at least it did beforeI got sick.
贾森会画画
我喜欢他的画
要不是因为有法律学位
我会叫他画家
他的法律学位让他大部分时候
或者至少是在我生病前要在市中心的办公室
从上午 9 点待到下午 5 点
If you’relooking for a dreamy,
let’s-go-for-ittravel companion,
Jason is your man.
如果你在找一个不瞻前顾后
愿意说走就走的人结伴旅行
贾森就是你要找的人
He also has an affinityfor tiny things:
taster spoons, littlejars,
a mini-sculpture
of a couple sitting on abench,
which he presented tome
as a reminder of how ourfamily began.
他还喜欢小物件：
小勺子、小罐子
一对夫妇坐在一条长凳上的迷你雕塑
他把那尊雕塑拿给我是为了提醒我
我们的家庭是怎么开始的
Here is the kind of manJason is:
He showed up
at our first pregnancyultrasound with flowers.
贾森是这样一种人：
他手捧献花
出现在我们
第一次做孕期超声波检查的地方
This is a man who,
because he is always upearly,
surprises me every Sundaymorning
by making some kind ofoddball smiley face
out of items near thecoffeepot:
a spoon, a mug, a banana.
因为一向早起
他会在每个周日的早上用咖啡壶旁边的物品
比如勺子、马克杯、香蕉摆出某种奇怪的笑脸
来给我惊喜
This is a man whoemerges
from the minimart or gasstation
and says, “Give meyour palm.”
And, voilà, acolorful gumball appears.
(He knows I loveall the flavors but white.)
这个男人会从小商店或加油站出来，
说：“摊开手掌。”
然后，哇！缤纷的球状口香糖从天而降
（他知道哪种口味我都喜欢，除了白色的）
My guess
is you know enough abouthim now.
So let’s swiperight.
我猜你现在对他有了足够多的了解。
那么我们就“向右拖曳”吧。
Wait. Did I mentionthat
he is incrediblyhandsome?
I’m goingto miss looking at that face of his.
等等
我有没有提到他非常帅？
我会想念凝视他的脸庞的感觉
I am wrapping this up onValentine’sDay,
and the most genuine,non-vase-oriented gift
I can hope for is
that the right personreads this,
finds Jason,
and another love storybegins.
我是在情人节那天写完这篇文字的
而我希望得到的鲜花以外真正的礼物便是
一个对的人能读到它
找到贾森
开始另一段爱情故事
I’llleave this intentional empty space below
as a way of giving youtwo the fresh start
you deserve.
我会刻意把底下的空间留白
为你们奉上你们应得的新的开始
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