Things learhed from my experience 06|自我反思系列06|1'55″。你确定你相信的就是事实吗？不要被自己认为的真相绑架情绪。hi guys welcome back to my channel。Sometimes we feel down，有时候我们心情低落，because we have certain beliefs or opinions about things，是因为我们以为我们对待事物的看法。we are sure is true，就是绝对的事实。
even if it's actually not you happen to be one of those people，如果你恰巧也被自己所认为的事实控制情绪，have you ever stopped and asked yourself，你有没有尝试问过自己。
Is what I believe about a person or things really the truth？我对一个人或一件事的看法真的是事实吗？
Because if it turns out that it isn' t。因为如果事实并非如此。
then there may be no reason for us to feel sad or negative，那么我们可能就没有理由感到悲伤或消极了。
I started thinking about this，我这个想法来自于when I was doing interviews for my master's program，我读研时做访谈的经历。
Using interviews as a method of访谈法作为一种。data collection has its drawbacks，因为受访者有时，don't want to show their true feelings，并不想表达他们的真实想法。
And even if they do，即便他们表达了interviewers might misunderstand them，访谈者也可能会误解他们。or interpret their ideas wrong because of their own biases，或者因为自己的偏见或其他因素而错误地解释他们的想法。
话说 can mini NaOH the issues，尽管研究者可以尝试最小化这些问题，But they can't guarantee that the study is completely reliable，但是他们也无法保证研究完全可靠。
If 吵架 like this can be limited，如果像这样的研究可以受到限制。
how can we ever truly understand what someone's really feeling in real life，我们怎么能？真正理解一个人在现实生活中的真实感受。我们不太可能衡量一个人的意图，也不太可能在互联网上，overwhelming information available on the internet，铺天盖地的信息中了解到真相(这里专指网上的信息)。
So is it possible that we may never truly uncover the truth about a person，都不可能真正揭示一个人，or things around us 或我们周围事物的真相。Could it be that 有没有可能。our attitudes and beliefs shape our perception of truth，我们对事物的态度和看法塑造了我们认为的事实。rather than an absolute reality，而不是由绝对的事实去塑造。
If that's the case，如果是那样的话，we don't need to worry，我们就没有必要担心。
if we find some truths that we can't accept，我们发现一些无法接受的”事实”，because maybe it's never true to begin with，因为也许它从一开始就不是真的。
What's more we should be proud that 我们应该感到庆幸。we have the right to choose how we emotionally respond，我们可以选择用什么情绪应对”事实”。
Because if we want truth A to be our reality，因为如果我们想”事实”A成为我们的现实，we can make it our personal truth，那么我们可以把它变成个人的真相，然后我们的情绪就会与我们所选择的事实一致。
